Every situation in life in temporary

The title to this post is such an important mantra to remind ourselves of and here I attempt to discuss my understanding of it in this modern day world. A brief Buddha teaching: A raft is useful to cross a river. But to use the raft to cross the river and then carry the raft … Continue reading Every situation in life in temporary

Not Dating.

Just to be clear, I am not dating and more to the point I don't want to.  I'm not sure I ever will be ready, it makes me cringe just to think about dating other men or even going on a 'first' date. I don't want to feel 'on a stage' with a pressure to impress anyone. … Continue reading Not Dating.

When life stops.

And life does stop, for me anyway, that pause is usually over half terms, Easter, Christmas holidays and the long Summer break. Being a teacher, my mind is driving at a steady 90mph, not healthy and also not a desirable speed. You're right there. Come the holidays, life really does stop for me now. It … Continue reading When life stops.

Knowing what’s good for you.

I know what's good for me, and I am going to assume you know what's good for you too. But, when it comes to love and heartbreak we no longer communicate out of logic or sensibility. I write this post to you because I find myself torn between communicating and not communicating to my ex. Ex … Continue reading Knowing what’s good for you.

A diamond with a flaw is worth more than a pebble without imperfections.

Damaged goods? Lets discuss... Although I am not legally divorced from my husband at this moment, I feel like I am, the only difference is a piece of paper telling me I am officially. The challenges of meeting new people I am sure can be most disappointing, especially as soon as you mention you've been … Continue reading A diamond with a flaw is worth more than a pebble without imperfections.

Feelings are just visitors.

So let them go? Deep down inside if I let myself admit it, I am holding onto a lot of blame and 'what if's' concerning my behaviour towards my marriage. It's these particular thoughts that challenge my state of mind and balance. When these feelings of sadness, regret, anger, loneliness, doubt and general disappointment wash … Continue reading Feelings are just visitors.

Just keep swimming.

Once you've sunk to the bottom of the ocean. You can only go up. It depends how hard you push yourself back up that determines you're ultimate happiness. No one is worth putting that amount of effort in apart from you - No.1. Y O U R S E L F. A true lesson, look … Continue reading Just keep swimming.

I’m not old, just a recycled teenager.

'Age is just a number.' Yes it is ....but with it comes an abundance of labels and preconceptions of how we should or shouldn't behave and where we should be in the 'race' for life goals. I used to have it all planned out, and if you admit it to yourself you probably have too at … Continue reading I’m not old, just a recycled teenager.

A word on healing.

Hello to you, whoever you are... We will all at some point go through loss. It's inevitable. Unfortunately. Some of you may already know I am going through a divorce, a divorce from my 'other half' of 9 years. I am writing this because I feel full to the brim and I feel the only way … Continue reading A word on healing.