Damaged goods? Lets discuss…
Although I am not legally divorced from my husband at this moment, I feel like I am, the only difference is a piece of paper telling me I am officially.
The challenges of meeting new people I am sure can be most disappointing, especially as soon as you mention you’ve been married and now recently divorced. The response is similar to the feeling I get when I pick up a bad apple in a supermarket. I get it. I was that person once, I wouldn’t consider dating someone who had been divorced. There I said it.
I am on the receiving end of this now. Am finding it near on impossible to gather the courage to tell new friends and people I meet that I am going through a divorce. What will they think of me? The worst, I’m sure.
There is something wrong with me.
I do have wounds from my previous love, I do hurt, and I am questioning and more afraid of love and everything that comes with it as a result. But I know that when I meet the right person that all I have is an abundance of love to give. One reason why my marriage failed is because he didn’t show much affection towards me, he wasn’t emotional or loving, and I never felt it. It was like pouring all my efforts and love into what I thought was a reciprocated movement, but instead I was always moving alone pretending someone was dancing with me. All the while I was becoming depleted, emotionally drained and frustrated at the inability for him to give something back in return.
I come from a family that has nurtured me and loved me fiercely with no restraints, even now at the age of 29 I still talk to my mum daily on the phone. I struggled to understand and not feel loved in a relationship that wasn’t even a third of the love my immediate family have provided me. If he’s not head over heels in love with me and emitting the love towards me I so need and want then forget it – To my future other half.
Remind yourself not to settle for anything less or equal to what you have had previously, there is a reason that didn’t work out.
So my question is; How do I get over telling people I am a divorcee? Or better…how do I show people this is now me….